Comments for Baby Advice http://www.cuddlesngifts.net/baby Just another WordPress weblog Mon, 01 Dec 2008 20:26:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 Comment on Temper Tantrum; the Terrible Two’s by admin http://www.cuddlesngifts.net/baby/2007/12/02/temper-tantrum-the-terrible-twos/#comment-130 admin Tue, 18 Nov 2008 14:01:36 +0000 http://www.cuddlesngifts.net/baby/2007/12/02/temper-tantrum-the-terrible-twos/#comment-130 Whether related to your divorce and the likely emotional drama between you and your spouse or not -- young children often pick up on intense emotions and feelings in the household. Without having the ability to rationalize they "act out them out" and that may be what you are seeing. You should seek professional guidance from a child therapist; but in the meantime: 1. Be a loving and caring parent to your child no matter what. 2. Any "adult conversations and interactions with your spouse" should not be done in front of the child or even in the same building for that matter (small ears are very sensitive). Get a baby-sitter and conduct your marital business/issues 'elsewhere'. 3. Allow "dad" to be dad to his daughter; avoid all confrontations that might seem to undermine that continued relation. If you need to leave the house to allow this - you should. 4. Lastly, get out of thinking "somethings wrong and so there must be fault"... that line of thinking doesn't help "you" and if it doesn't help you - it harms you; and that poisons the environment around you such that those closest to you get confused... and "her confusion" is actually quite apparent in the hitting, bitting, and slapping. I cannot stress enough; seek professional guidance. Whether related to your divorce and the likely emotional drama between you and your spouse or not — young children often pick up on intense emotions and feelings in the household. Without having the ability to rationalize they “act out them out” and that may be what you are seeing.

You should seek professional guidance from a child therapist; but in the meantime:

1. Be a loving and caring parent to your child no matter what.
2. Any “adult conversations and interactions with your spouse” should not be done in front of the child or even in the same building for that matter (small ears are very sensitive). Get a baby-sitter and conduct your marital business/issues ‘elsewhere’.
3. Allow “dad” to be dad to his daughter; avoid all confrontations that might seem to undermine that continued relation. If you need to leave the house to allow this - you should.
4. Lastly, get out of thinking “somethings wrong and so there must be fault”… that line of thinking doesn’t help “you” and if it doesn’t help you - it harms you; and that poisons the environment around you such that those closest to you get confused… and “her confusion” is actually quite apparent in the hitting, bitting, and slapping.

I cannot stress enough; seek professional guidance.

]]> Comment on Temper Tantrum; the Terrible Two’s by MOTHER IN NEED http://www.cuddlesngifts.net/baby/2007/12/02/temper-tantrum-the-terrible-twos/#comment-129 MOTHER IN NEED Tue, 18 Nov 2008 13:25:21 +0000 http://www.cuddlesngifts.net/baby/2007/12/02/temper-tantrum-the-terrible-twos/#comment-129 I have a 1 and 2 year old. My 2 year old has been acting out really bad. I don't know what to do anymore. Plz can somebody give me some advice. I'm going through a Divorce and they just don't understand. I think she thinks its my fault but really its his fault and of course i don't tell the kids that. She(2) is hitting, bitting, and slapping me. WHAT DO I DO. I have a 1 and 2 year old. My 2 year old has been acting out really bad. I don’t know what to do anymore. Plz can somebody give me some advice. I’m going through a Divorce and they just don’t understand. I think she thinks its my fault but really its his fault and of course i don’t tell the kids that. She(2) is hitting, bitting, and slapping me. WHAT DO I DO.

]]> Comment on Babies An Amazing Gift From Above by robert bleackley http://www.cuddlesngifts.net/baby/2007/12/02/babies-an-amazing-gift-from-above/#comment-76 robert bleackley Sun, 19 Oct 2008 07:31:57 +0000 http://www.cuddlesngifts.net/baby/2007/12/02/babies-an-amazing-gift-from-above/#comment-76 Hello, just came across your site and found my son and daughter in there, I thought you might like an update. Annie was born 4mths prematurly which brought many complications as you can imagine, but she is now a bright bubbly intelligent 8 year old, extremly creative a great reader and full of the joys of life. Hello, just came across your site and found my son and daughter in there, I thought you might like an update. Annie was born 4mths prematurly which brought many complications as you can imagine, but she is now a bright bubbly intelligent 8 year old, extremly creative a great reader and full of the joys of life.

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